Sunday, February 28, 2010
Friday, February 19, 2010
Someone in my ofce asked me this stupid question : Why do you stay works with Proton after these years?
These years?? it has only been 4 years and 3 months! not like some Proton staff who have been so devoted with Proton, stay as Proton staff for 20 years!! (refer to Mr Husband-a loyal Proton staff since 1989!)
Well, i come to a conclusion :
1. Proton is an established company since 1989 - supported by Malaysian Government - and much much stable these days. Even our MD has just released a memo telling how good we are doing nowadays (i heard a kachinnnggg sound. is it bonus time? hehehe)
2.Currently i am loving what i'm doing. i love these jobs. although the works are piling up, but i like it, honestly. All the material testing, quality investigation and reports. No one in my department is doing this job. and i feel special..hehe
3.Stress-free job. that's what i can tell as long as you are doing your job according to your superior, following procedure and making sure that you're not exceeding your dateline (which you set it in the first place)
4.We can go back exactly at 5:30 pm, no one will force you to stay back, and no weekend job!
Not because i have my husband here, but because i love my job!
ok all, it's already 5:30 pm, got to go home!! yeay!
Have a good weekend everyone!
Thursday, February 18, 2010
While there’s no practical way for you to make up for the time you’re spending away from your child, it’s important that you find some middle ground. Separate work time from time with your child. Make sure that whenever you’re with the baby, you’re with him 100 percent. Forget the phone, the computer, the newspapers, or the TV. You can do all those things after the baby goes to sleep, before he wakes up, or while he’s busy nursing. You also might want to explore some different scheduling options for your office: getting into work an hour or two early might give you and your baby a few relaxed hours together in the afternoons.i wish i could do this at Proton. Sadly, no.. And telecommuting to work one day a week allows you to spend your commute time reading your son a book instead of sitting in traffic. how lucky if i could..
Thinking about how little time we spent with our lil one made me feel so bad. if only we have so much money and asset that we didnt have to go to work..
but nevermind, i try my best to spend every single free time with her.. to make her realize how important she is in our life..
I found this article which i want to share with all of you. very interesting!
For most of you being a mother is one of the most wonderful and rewarding experiences that you will have in your life. (sooo true!) It can also be a time when you feel lost and out of touch with who you are outside of being a “mommy”. Maintaining an identity outside of your children is vitally important, not just for you, but for your family as well. So here are ten strategies that not only keep you connected with you, but also have the added bonus of being an important life skill to teach your children.
1. Be present – Often when we spend time with our children we are thinking about the things that we should be doing or we multi task and we are not really present with them. Then, when we are not with them, we feel guilty. (betul-betul!! always feel like that.) Make the decision that when you spend time with your child to just be there for them, enjoy them, listen to them, and focus on them 100%. Spending this type of quality time with your child will lessen the guilt and help you focus on other activities with the same 100% attention. Added Bonus: Teaches your child to focus on and enjoy the moment.
2. Take care of yourself – This is a big one for most women since we get so busy caring for others we tend to forget about ourselves. (almost forgot what is 'take care of yourself' definition.. didnt have time anymore..sad sad..) Define what taking care of yourself means to you and develop a schedule to do it. Keep tweaking your schedule until you are actually fitting taking care of yourself into the day. Taking care of yourself helps to replenish your spirit, it helps you to relax, and it helps you to feel good about yourself. Added Bonus: Teaches your child to develop healthy habits that will last a lifetime. (exercise will do, rite? oh, dah lamanye tak jogging. last time i remember went to gym was before i got married..more than a year!!) .
3. Connect with you partner – It is so easy to get wrapped up in the kids and in everyday life that you forget about your relationship with your partner. (yup! kesian my hubby) Connect with your partner as often as you can, make a point to sit down over coffee on a Sunday morning and just talk about anything and everything, but the kids. It can be silly or profound, just make sure you connect with each other as a couple. Added Bonus: Teaches your child how to maintain a healthy relationship.
4. Get involved – Get involved in some activity that is only for you. It can be work, volunteering, a class, or a book club. Just get involved in some regular activity where you are not a wife or a mommy, you are just you. (i dont think i manage to find extra free time for this) Added Bonus: Encourages your child to participate in outside activities.
5. Have meaningful conversations – Sometimes when you have children your day gets so caught up with “kid stuff” that you can’t remember the last time you had a meaningful adult conversation. Have you ever felt frustrated, aggravated and on edge and then gone out to a long dinner with a friend and felt like a new woman at the end of the night? That is why it is important to have meaningful conversations. (can't wait to meet up with my friends-most of them are married, and like me, stuck with baby stuff and adapting to married life plus new mommy thing) Added Bonus: Teaches your child to get their needs met by more than one person.
6. Read – Who has time to read? We all do. It doesn’t have to be a long time, and reading is a great way to be intellectually stimulated. It exposes us to different subjects and new ideas, even when it is a light and fluffy read. Staying intellectually stimulated is important because it keeps us in touch with what we find exciting and gets those brain cells snapping. (nak baca paper kat ofce pun x sempat..eish eish.. excuses...)Added Bonus: Teaches your child to seek out and appreciate knowledge.
7. Take time for just you – Make sure you get some get some quality time for just you. It can be anything you want from spending time with a friend, to getting a manicure, or just being by yourself. Just do something that is only for you, it will fill you up and refresh you. You will feel like a new woman after you are done. (really like to try this. salon, anyone?)Added Bonus: Encourages your child to be independent.
8. Remember that you have needs too – We have needs, and it is our responsibility to get them met. If you’re feeling frustrated, or unappreciated, instead of walking around feeling angry and misunderstood, figure out a way to get those needs met. Talk about them, ask for support, and be specific. And remember most people can’t read minds so you have to communicate with them to get those needs met. (luckily i have a husband that i could pour every stupid and silly stuff to him..sorry yang..have to listen to all the whinings) Added Bonus: Teaches your child how to effectively meet their own needs.
9. Give yourself permission – Why do we feel like bad mothers for wanting to do something for ourselves? Every woman who I have ever talked to that wants to express an unhappiness about being a mother feels the need to qualify it by saying “Well, of course I love my child more than anything in the world but…”. Of course you do, but it doesn’t mean that you can’t be unhappy about the way something is going or how you feel. This is how you feel right now, there is nothing wrong with that, you’re a normal mother. Give yourself permission to feel the way you do and do something for yourself to feel better. Even if that means stepping back from your child for a couple of hours. (yes, yes.. stick that inside your mind, airin!) Added Bonus: Teaches your child to recognize and healthily deal with their emotions.
10. Be a role model – When you ask most parents what they want most for their children they say that they want them to be happy and successful contributing adults. The very best way to ensure that comes true for your child is to be a role model. If you want your child to be confident, get their needs met, be sure of who they are, and happy with their life, just remember that they learn that from you. (aha, need to set some good example.. New year resolution #6 : To be a dedicated worker to Proton Holdings, which means better grade, better salary, successful person - erm, wait! Doesn't that means better grade = better salary = successful person = a lot of money??? hehe.. bad bad example..materialistic, huh?) Added Bonus: Teaches your child to act with integrity.
Love of mommy? Yes, unconditional and priceless!
Wednesday, February 17, 2010
Sunday, February 14, 2010
Before I'd separate myself from you
After so much suffering
I've finally found a man that's true
I was all by myself for the longest time
So cold inside
And the hurt from the heart it would not subside
I felt like dying
Until you saved my life
Thank God I found you
I was lost without you
My every wish and every dream
Somehow became reality
When you brought the sunlight
Completed my whole life
I'm overwhelmed with gratitude
Cause baby I'm so thankful
I found you
I would give you everything
There's nothing in this world I wouldn't do
To ensure your happiness
I'll cherish every part of you
Because without you beside me I can't survive
I don't wanna try
If you're keeping me warm each and every night
I'll be all right
Cause I need you in my life
See I was so desolate
Before you came to me
Looking back I guess it shows
that we were destined to shine
After the rain to appreciate
And care for what we have
And I'd go through it all over again
To be able to feel this way
I'm overwhelmed with gratitude
My baby I'm so thankful I found you
Wednesday, February 10, 2010
- Lissa still has her coughing every now and then. plus a runny nose.. pity her.. cant help her much. felt so bad!
- My own bad health conditions (suddenly song by MOH ringing inside my head "Tak tahan tak tahan..Sabarku tak tertahan..Melayan sikapmu perawan..lalalalala)
- Stuffy and runny nose
- Sore throat
- A Garau voice (i tot it'll turn out to be a sexy Ella voice. i guess i was wrong!)
- A bad and twisted stomachache (unknown cause, really..it has been for quite a week)
- A very messy home = A very messy mind
Tuesday, February 9, 2010
So after I did some clean up, we went to OU to buy some of stuff in my to-buy-thing list.
Friday, February 5, 2010
I came across this article about bf where it really made me smile throughout the day.
"New mothers may have some inhibitions about transforming themselves from being a desirable woman into a milk-producing mammal."
So coincidence with my situation right now. Even my friends told me that I've progressed to build a milk factory with a brand Marigold looming large outside the building.
"NEW mums and mums-to-be may find themselves swirling in a bowl of alphabet soup where the nutritional needs of their babies are concerned. DHA, ARA, EFA, LCP, etc, seem to be the latest lingo. Looking back, I guess the good old days must have been much easier for our grandmothers and mothers had only one choice: breast milk – free and easily available." Yes, definitely true!! Mothers nowadays have too many options to skip the breastfeeding part (along with nipple soreness & bleeding & engorgement and the list goes on and on..)
The writer also emphasized on how she observed new mums during her visit at hospital :
Tuesday, February 2, 2010
Looking back at what I have gone thru, what have I accomplished.. I can conclude that Year 2009 was a wonderful, sweet and most memorable year for me.
Listed below are all those happy, sweet memories for me and my husband along 2009 :
From the beginning, my tittle evolved from Ms to Mrs. Being a wife to someone was easy. But being a good and solehah wife to someone wasn't easy. Just imagine to have to share a room with other person, even have to share bed and bathroom. Have to prepare food, tidy up the room and house, clean bathroom, wash and arrange clean cloth. But I managed to enjoy every moment spent with him. To wake up next to someone I love, to go back from work to a home we shared together, to get to do stuff with the person I cherish, were much much worth it!
Zen Garden Resort, Kundasang! We had a wonderful time there.
After 3 days 2 nights of astonishing stay at Kundasang, we went back to Kota Kinabalu town and continue our jalan2 cari makan. The reason I said that was because of the seafood. I cant express how fresh and cheap the crabs, prawn, squid and fish over there. We had a full stomach for the whole visit!
By the end of January, multiple events filled our life already. And it was just a beginning of 2009. Yet, good news not over.I found out that I was pregnant by the end of the month. 24th January to be exact. I was late, and I knew that we're going to be parents. He was overwhelmed with the news. Felt like on top of the world!
24th January to 2nd October
The timeline has marked a new start for both of us. Lucky and fortunate, I didn't have any morning sickness or alergy throughout my pregnancy. And he has been the best husband I've ever wanted. Care for me and fulfill my emotion and basic needs. Just say whatever I want, he'll give it. Alhamdulillah, my labor was also easy and smooth, never thought that bringing a child to a world was that easy. Berkat doa every night dan semangat from my husband and family, Nur Adriana Lissa Maisarah binti Rosman was born healthy.
Lissa's first bath with nenek
Lissa and mama
Lissa with Atuk
We moved to our first owned apartment after almost 4 months staying at rented 1 bedroom apt at Brunsfield Apartment. Pangsapuri Indahria. At last! I bought the apartment with a downpayment for only RM500 in 2006. The first property owned by me. However, we didn't want to make any renovation for the apartment since we are going to move to our landed house by either end of 2010 or early 2011. so, the apt stays as it is J
- To be a better wife to Mr Rosman - amin
- To be the best mom to Nur Adriana Lissa Maisarah - amin
- To successfully breastfeed Lissa as long as til she reaches 2 years old - InsyaAllah
- To be a good daughter to my mom, dad and in-laws
- To be a good sis to my sisters and brother
- To be a dedicated worker to Proton Holdings
- To buy a new car - long term resolution-dateline 2011??
After all said and done, I better start planning for the whole year 2010. Wish me luck!!!
Monday, February 1, 2010
Last night, I learnt a new phrase from my husband. He said to me: " Kebahagiaan tu bukan milik mutlak kita. Sedangkan duit dalam poket kita ni pun bukan hak kita, bila-bila masa Tuhan boleh ambil balik." It made me realized it's true. Doa doa and doa..and tawakal to Allah that we will be always be blessed with happiness. And of course we need to berusaha. Ikhtiar so that we could stay happy forever. Walaupun badai melanda.. cewah.. berfalsafah plak.. (wink!)
Though those multiple events, we went for another sushi time last Friday